I did a lot of research on this topic. The overbore issue is real but there are more factors at work. I have to side with Graybeard on this one.
First, erosion of the throat occurs much faster when your barrel gets hot. Even a gun with typically long barrel life can be abused and worn out quickly.
Next, the shoulder angle plays a big part in how the flame is directed from the case. With popular military rounds such as a 223 Rem, 7mm Mauser, 308 Win, and 30-06, they all went through extensive testing for all sorts of conditions to include barrel / throat life. These cartridges were the best in their power range considering all the factors.
The angle of the shoulder works almost like a lens and should focus the pressure directly in line with the bore. Some cartridge's shoulder angle makes the flame-under-pressure hit the throat too much and causes flame cutting (throat erosion). A good example is the 264 Win Mag. It can suffer from excessive throat erosion in as little as 500 rounds.
Barrel life can be extended with some very simple measures. Don't shoot your gun if you can't hold your hand on the barrel without getting burnt. Clean the barrel thoroughly and properly after each shooting session. Don't shoot hot loads. Don't shoot mil-surp or foreign ammo that has mercuric primers (yes, some still do). Don't shoot tracers. Use a bore guide with your cleaning rod. Use aluminum or brass cleaning rods, never steel.