As I recall, the full case of TB (to bullet base, uncompressed, 19.0 gr.) had less felt recoil than the BP loads I tried as a base-line. At the time I considered that for me, maybe an 80-85% load of TB might be a fine low level, but even the full charge was a 'trapdoor' load too.
Regardless, the 45-70 is hard to find a bad load for, and can be tuned to whatever you or your kids and/or g-kids are comfortable with.
Dont get much better than that!