Buc, where did you get the 'new' T-bar from, it sounds like the old stock 'wrong one'.
You have the right idea about not setting the pins until done, and a brass 'cupped' punch will avoid marring the heads.
If the striker has too much chamfer on the f-pin side it'll give ya fits. I didnt get to doing this, my replacement came, but a bit of weld to square it up and then put only enough chamfer on to get it to slide past the f-pin should work. You might want to just build that too short one up and re-engineer it if they wont refund it.
The factory does not spend much time fitting these actions, and most work, but they have bins of bits too. Remember, a finely fitted t-extension with perfect timing still will likely have issues if the striker is too short or too heavily chamfered.