Modern Child Abuse

[Dee]

Watching Fox and drinking my mornin coffee (as usual) this mornin and watched a little clip on the return of parents disciplining their children.
Seems the boy (looked to be about 12) talked back to his mother, and the big bad dad stepped in and made him do push-ups.

PUSH-UPS? My dearly departed ole daddy would have yanked the cowhide off his waist, and Ida done that circle.
Any of you guys remember "that circle"? The one where dad has you by the left arm, and your hoppin to the the timing of that belt he's swinging, and if you instinctively put that right hand back there, it gets a whipping to.

I guess the downside of "that circle" was mom and dad never had the pleasure of coming down and bonding me out of jail at 2AM, and instead suffered through watching my chosen profession be referred to as pigs.. Short for P-pride, I-integrity, G-guts  

I say:bring back the belt at home, the paddle at school, and the flip phone at home.

[Lloyd Smale]

we did push ups for football boxing and fun. when dad was pissed fun wasnt on the table

[DDZ]

PUSH-UPS? My dearly departed ole daddy would have yanked the cowhide off his waist, and Ida done that circle.
Any of you guys remember "that circle"? The one where dad has you by the left arm, and your hoppin to the the timing of that belt he's swinging, and if you instinctively put that right hand back there, it gets a whipping to.

Oh yes I remember that quite well. Just as you described it. Seeing dad pull off his belt struck fear in me. Was it child abuse? I never thought so. Although many people do today. I have gotten in arguments with people over child abuse or just plain ole discipline. I think its a big part of whats wrong with society anymore. Kids are not disciplined anymore, and as adults they continue to have an egotistical, narcissistic character, that have no respect for other people.

A good friend of mine has a daughter and son-in-law who let their kids hit and slap them. When he has the grandkids he doesn't let them get away with it. He says the parents always give into the kids wants to appease them.  I never believed that time outs work in disiplining a child. Now we have a bunch of kids that show no respect toward adults, or even other kids. They continue that through live and end up being egotictical, narcissistical adults. 

[ironglowz]

Watching Fox and drinking my mornin coffee (as usual) this mornin and watched a little clip on the return of parents disciplining their children.
Seems the boy (looked to be about 12) talked back to his mother, and the big bad dad stepped in and made him do push-ups.

PUSH-UPS? My dearly departed ole daddy would have yanked the cowhide off his waist, and Ida done that circle.
Any of you guys remember "that circle"? The one where dad has you by the left arm, and your hoppin to the the timing of that belt he's swinging, and if you instinctively put that right hand back there, it gets a whipping to.

I guess the downside of "that circle" was mom and dad never had the pleasure of coming down and bonding me out of jail at 2AM, and instead suffered through watching my chosen profession be referred to as pigs.. Short for P-pride, I-integrity, G-guts  

I say:bring back the belt at home, the paddle at school, and the flip phone at home.

  Oh yeah !   That "circle"...how I chuckled when you put a name to it !     I remember it well, even though I didn't have such a colorful name for it ! 

   My Dad was a big guy..known far for his strength, so I learned later in life , that Mom made a pact with him that discipline would only be through a belt, switch or  strap, so his strength didn't do some permanent damage.

  He had a good method though, when we were getting just a bit out of line... first a word...then he reached for his belt buckle..and 99 times out of a hundred..that was enough.

   If rthat belt buckle was undone..we knew there was no escaping a painful date with leather..and a "circle dance"...

  Painful for a time...but truly beneficial in the long run !

[moamonkey]

I had a shop class in high school where the teacher (male), made us drop and do twice our age in pushups in front of the class if we were late, forgot our homework or our books. Peer pressure was a powerful thing.

[GTS225]

I too, remember that dance.  Mom was usually the one that swung the belt, though, and it was an old, woven-canvas military belt.....the one with the brass ring rivets all the way around the waist.  Not a good feeling.  There was also a lilac bush along the west side of the property line.   I felt those a few times in my life too, and we had to go out and pick the one that was to be used.
Mom quit that kind of discipline after she broke her good, hardwood yardstick over me and I asked if she was done, then.  By then I was well into my teens, and started acting like a reasonably civilized person.

Roger

[Bob Riebe]

I had a shop class in high school where the teacher (male), made us drop and do twice our age in pushups in front of the class if we were late, forgot our homework or our books. Peer pressure was a powerful thing.

     In Gym class , if some one did some thing stupid, and no one would squeal on him the whole class stood at attention all class hour .
We had gym teachers that put the fear of God in every one.

     At home dad never used a belt, several fingers of an open hand across the face repeatedly; it was not so much  if you did some thing wrong, it was that you pissed him off and he had a short temper.
     He was - I will not say this twice - on most days.

[DDZ]

I'm sure some of you remember the paddles in school. Had a school principle that always wore a suit, and he would slide a narrow wooden paddle up his jacket sleeve, and cup his hand to hold the paddle in place. He would walk the halls and look for an opportunity to whack someone. The guy looked half gorilla, and I think he enjoyed paddling kids. Although most knew to be on their best behavior when he was around.  Then had a gym teacher that taught swimming. If you miss behaved he made you stand on the edge of the pool, bend over, and he would whack you with a wooden paddle knocking you into the water. In wet swim trunks one only wanted to experience that once.
Then had a 7th grade English teacher that was old by teacher standards. If you disrupted class she had this narrow little wooden paddle that was about 10-12 inches long. She would walk back to your desk, tell you to hold out your hand and whack the back of your hand a few times. Then if the disruption was deemed bad enough by her standards. She would take you out in the hall, and give you the big wooden paddle on your backside. Today any of those acts by a teacher would have them thrown in jail.

[Lloyd Smale]

i rember at 6 or 7 acting up in catechism and the nun making me kneel on a triangle ruler, then ma picked me up and all she said was dads waiting for you!! 

[gypsyman]

  My mother broke a badminton racket over my backside one time. Used her bare hand a couple others. Most of the punishment I had under 14 or so, mom handled. Think I know why, when I turned 16 and got into an argument with my dad, and said something that really pi**ed him off, wrong thing to do, to an ex-Marine that spent time on Guadalcanal, Bougainville, and a couple other islands during WW2. I picked myself up off the floor and decided to not do that again.