People are quick to blame the parents, and at times, parents are part of the problem. My stepson, who is now in his early 60s, was staying with us while in between county jail, and finding another job, made a statement to me in my living room that I'll never forget.
He said: You know Dan, if you had came into my life when I was younger, I might have not been getting into as much trouble as I do now.
My response was: Well, your now 23 years old. What you just said tells me that you know the difference between right, and wrong. So how long are you gonna blame everyone else for your bad behavior?
He agreed with me, and almost 40 years later, he's still worthless.
Some folks are just worthless, regardless of their home environment, or what their parents were like.
Couldn't agree more.
The problem with many parents today that
I'm seeing is the enabling and making excuses
for what they do.
I'm pretty sure I've posted about this dopehead
criminal that used to live across the way with
his grandma when she was alive.
That family is a prime example.
The grandma called me on the phone several
times and asked me to come over.
She'd meet me at the front porch and
sob about the stuff her dirtbag grandson
would do. Selling and using dope at her
house, the police constantly stopping
and looking for him while he would scoot
out the back and hide in the bushes, or
be running down the alley as hard as he
could go, etc.
I would always tell her that no problem,
I'd go back over and call the police.
But the family would always insist that
the police didn't need to be called and
just forget everything and such.
Well she's passed on now and with
nobody to enable and make excuses
for him the county S.D. finally caught up
with him and he's currently working on
his 6 year minimum at whatever unit
he's at .
Many of these psychos today need to
be incarcerated as well for the long term.
People forget that the first priority
should be protecting innocent law abiding
citizens from any potential harm of any
degree that misfits can bring.
After that's completely taken care of in
a fail safe manner, then the attention
can be turned towards the incarcerated
person to whatever degree is possible
to save or rehabilitate, or if they're not
salvageable, get em put to work on a
work crew from dark to dark